Something I read today really caught me off guard. It was from an article titled “You Don’t Have to Be Pretty.”
"You Don’t Have to Be Pretty. You don’t owe prettiness to anyone… you don’t owe it to civilization in general. Prettiness is not a rent you pay for occupying a space marked ‘female.’" The article went on to say that it doesn’t mean one owes it to feminism to not be pretty but that "prettiness" is not an obligation. I don’t know why this was so surprising to read; perhaps it’s because our culture implies that to be successfully female, you must be pleasant for others to see, following the ideals of fashion and beauty. What is beauty anyway? Our culture has so deeply distorted the concept, and many of us have taken it in and believed it without even realizing it. I’m not saying that I don’t want to be pretty (who doesn’t want to feel good about themselves?) What I’m saying is that it is way more important to love myself than to appeal to the general idea of "pretty."